Evidence & Reports

A Place to Breathe

I was personally moved by this first SEND Families session. You could hear the pain, worry and pressure behind some of the experiences shared, but families were not asking for pity. They wanted understanding, dignity and respect, and for their children to be seen as people first rather than simply as a diagnosis, condition or number. Families also spoke about wanting greater inclusion in ordinary community life. Some described feeling excluded from events or spaces because of assumptions about bringing a child with additional needs. They want their families to be invited, welcomed and appropriately accommodated rather than separated. The familiar setting and Sunday 4:30pm timing worked particularly well and helped people feel comfortable from the outset. Going forward, we would like to retain this informal, family-led environment while also inviting an appropriate SEND/NHS or system representative who can listen and help answer some of the practical questions families have about navigating services and accessing support, without taking over the space. The session reinforced the value of A Place to Breathe: somewhere families can speak honestly, connect with others who understand their experiences and help shape the support they need. Those present wanted the gathering to continue, and we agreed to meet again next month. The session felt warm, open and positive, particularly for a first SEND Families gathering. Families from different circumstances attended, some with children, including families at different stages of navigating SEND support, and others without their children, allowing them some time away from their caring responsibilities to connect with other parents and families. People appeared comfortable speaking freely and honestly about their experiences. The setting was well received, and there was a clear appetite for the space to continue. By the end of the session, we collectively agreed that we would meet again next month. Several recurring themes emerged: difficulty navigating SEND and NHS systems; lack of clear, accessible information alongside information overload; inconsistent care provision and frequent changes of carers, making it difficult for children to build trusted relationships; concerns about empathy and the quality of care; and families feeling that their children can sometimes be seen as a condition or a number rather than as individuals. Financial pressure was also significant. Families described the strain of having to work to maintain their household while also wanting to provide more of their child’s care themselves. Available financial support was felt by some to be insufficient to make full-time caring a realistic option, creating a difficult balance between earning, caring and worrying about the quality of external care. Trust and safety in care were also raised. One parent shared a previous experience in which their daughter had reportedly been assaulted while in a care setting, and described the continuing worry that something similar could happen again. Parents also spoke about having to educate themselves about their child’s condition so they can advocate effectively and provide better support. There was a strong desire for better system navigation, more consistent and person-centred care, stronger NHS support, and greater understanding from families and the wider community.

Facilitator: Jesse Ashiegbu

No check-in baseline captured, so matched pre/post movement cannot be computed.

Demonstrative Food Literacy Cookery Session

No check-in baseline captured, so matched pre/post movement cannot be computed.

Prostate Cancer and Black Men's Health

No check-in baseline captured, so matched pre/post movement cannot be computed.

Women's Only: Zumba, Brunch & Real Talk with Sisters

No check-in baseline captured, so matched pre/post movement cannot be computed.

Prostate Cancer & Black Men's Health

No check-in baseline captured, so matched pre/post movement cannot be computed.

Prostate Cancer & Black Men's Health

Retrospective facilitator reflection by Jesse Ashiegbu. The session explored stigma and fear around prostate cancer, with Dr Osei Kankam answering questions in the room. Men engaged deeply with personal questions, and the session moved people from fear towards understanding and next steps, including one participant planning to ask his GP about a PSA test.

Facilitator: Jesse Ashiegbu

No check-in baseline captured, so matched pre/post movement cannot be computed.

Prostate Cancer & Black Men's Health

The men clearly valued the format and the opportunity to speak directly with a knowledgeable expert in a relaxed environment. Most significantly, the conversation appeared to move beyond awareness towards intended action, with at least one participant stating that he would contact his GP the following morning. Very intimate, captivating and highly informative. Denzil James, a Research Programme Manager working across The Institute of Cancer Research (ICR) and The Royal Marsden NHS Foundation Trust, did justice to the conversation. The questions kept coming, and he answered them in a way that was clear, accessible and relevant to the men in the room. What stood out to me was that many of these were questions the men had clearly been carrying for some time. The informal and relaxed Jollof Nights setting appeared to give them the confidence to ask questions they may not ordinarily raise with their GP or within a more formal healthcare setting. As the facts became clearer, the conversation visibly shifted towards action. I believe several men left more likely to seek testing or speak to their GP. One of the barbers said directly that he would call his GP first thing tomorrow morning. A recurring theme was the need for clearer health awareness, appropriate messaging and timely, trusted communication from health systems. Men appeared to have unanswered questions and information gaps, despite these issues directly affecting them. The session reinforced the value of bringing credible health expertise into trusted, informal spaces where men feel comfortable asking questions openly.

Facilitator: Jesse Ashiegbu

No check-in baseline captured, so matched pre/post movement cannot be computed.

The First Women-Only Jollof Nights

2 valid facilitator records — no authoritative record designated yet

Silent Stress in Men — at Nick's HQ Barbershop

Retrospectively reconstructed facilitator reflection for the 23 July 2026 Silent Stress in Men session at Nick's HQ Barbershop, authored from the facilitator's direct recollection. A familiar, family-like room of men became one of the most emotional Jollof Nights to date: a deeply reflective conversation about work, purpose, evolving versus derailing, and recognising the point at which a person drifts from themselves — with a trusted, familiar space giving men permission to be honest, vulnerable and mutually supportive.

Facilitator: Jesse Ashiegbu

Baseline check-in was not part of the methodology at the time.

Jollof Nights Kickoff Party

Retrospectively reconstructed facilitator reflection for the 22 July 2026 Jollof Nights Kickoff Party at Gado Hair Lounge, authored from the facilitator's direct recollection after the original entry was misfiled. The session marked the return of Jollof Nights: a relaxed kickoff party that quickly became a meaningful men's conversation about self-honesty, realistic expectations, relationships built on trust, and emotional wellbeing, and it set prostate cancer and Black men's health as the next major discussion topic.

Facilitator: Jesse Ashiegbu

Baseline check-in was not part of the methodology at the time.

First Jollof Night in Lewisham with Bright d Barber

3 valid facilitator records — no authoritative record designated yet

The Reboot of Jollof Nights

The openness in the conversation and the various lenses with which we were able to navigate the conversation. Most importantly, what stayed with me was seeing an attendee’s voice broke down emotionally as a deeper self reflection kicked in and his ability to stay honest and without fear of judgment.

Facilitator: Jesse Ashiegbu

Baseline check-in was not part of the methodology at the time.